Marriage Sabbatical
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sun_set_bravelyThis post is really just for myself, so I can find this article again. I'd post it as "private," but I'll probably succeed in hiding it from myself.
Someone just wrote something that reminded me of this idea, one that I'd forgotten for years, and one that will be necessary for my survival in any relationship. I can't afford to forget it again.
ABC Good Morning America article, including this list:
Old School Sabbaticals
Even though the phrase "marriage sabbatical" might be relatively new, the concept has existed through history.
Middle Ages:
Wealthy married women who wanted time alone retreated to convents.
Victorian Times:
Sabbaticals took the form of long-sea voyages for women.
Artists, Writers:
Georgia O'Keefe spent summers painting in New Mexico, away from husband Alfred Stieglitz. Writer Charlotte Perkins Gilman, author of The Yellow Wallpaper, toured three months a year and spent the rest at home.
Famous Activists:
Elizabeth Cady Stanton, a leading activist for working-class, anti-slavery and feminist causes spent more time on the road than with her husband of nearly 50 years. Carrie Chapman Catt, president of the National Women's Suffrage Association for more than 20 years, reportedly had a pre-nuptial contract with her husband that guaranteed her freedom for at least three months each year so that she could concentrate on politics.
Oprah page
From the book:
A marriage sabbatical is . . .
A time to feel peaceful,
and a time to feel pulled.
A time to learn about yourself,
and a time to learn about others.
A time to lose yourself in the quiet,
and a time to find yourself in the quiet.
A time to forget who you were,
and a time to remember who you are.
A time to awaken something new
ad a time to reawaken something dormant.
A time to forget your need for him,
and a time to remember his need for you.
A time to feel the strain in a marriage,
and a time to feel the strength in a marriage.
A time to realize that what you thought it was
going to be isn't unnecessarily what it becomes . . .
from “The Marriage Sabbatical, The Journey That Brings You Home”
The Gender Center -- interesting
Someone just wrote something that reminded me of this idea, one that I'd forgotten for years, and one that will be necessary for my survival in any relationship. I can't afford to forget it again.
ABC Good Morning America article, including this list:
Old School Sabbaticals
Even though the phrase "marriage sabbatical" might be relatively new, the concept has existed through history.
Middle Ages:
Wealthy married women who wanted time alone retreated to convents.
Victorian Times:
Sabbaticals took the form of long-sea voyages for women.
Artists, Writers:
Georgia O'Keefe spent summers painting in New Mexico, away from husband Alfred Stieglitz. Writer Charlotte Perkins Gilman, author of The Yellow Wallpaper, toured three months a year and spent the rest at home.
Famous Activists:
Elizabeth Cady Stanton, a leading activist for working-class, anti-slavery and feminist causes spent more time on the road than with her husband of nearly 50 years. Carrie Chapman Catt, president of the National Women's Suffrage Association for more than 20 years, reportedly had a pre-nuptial contract with her husband that guaranteed her freedom for at least three months each year so that she could concentrate on politics.
Oprah page
From the book:
A marriage sabbatical is . . .
A time to feel peaceful,
and a time to feel pulled.
A time to learn about yourself,
and a time to learn about others.
A time to lose yourself in the quiet,
and a time to find yourself in the quiet.
A time to forget who you were,
and a time to remember who you are.
A time to awaken something new
ad a time to reawaken something dormant.
A time to forget your need for him,
and a time to remember his need for you.
A time to feel the strain in a marriage,
and a time to feel the strength in a marriage.
A time to realize that what you thought it was
going to be isn't unnecessarily what it becomes . . .
from “The Marriage Sabbatical, The Journey That Brings You Home”
The Gender Center -- interesting
