Cutting my hair

[sun_set_bravely]

I've been growing my hair out for about six months now, and it's been an interesting experiment. To be honest, I grew it out not for the look of it, but just so I could lean my head back in the shower and feel my hair touching my back. I love that feeling.

But I'm starting to yearn for a simple bob again. It really does fit my face better than this long stuff. And my fine hair just has more life in it when it's shorter.

Does anyone have any good pictures or ideas for a nice, short (to the jawbone) haircut? I'd love to do something other than the straight-across short look that I often do. Layers intrigue me. And I lust after highlights. I'm not sure how they would work on me. Maybe the onset of spring will inspire me to try them out.

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My P.S. to this entry is that part of me feels shallow and stupid for posting it, in light of all that's happening in the world. I feel like I should be using this space to rant, and protest, and fight for change. But -- I don't know. How are y'all doing? I know from your posts that we are all deeply affected by an energy shift in the world, and I thank you for sharing your ways of coping with me. I think of you often, and hope you are doing well.

Comments

[schpahky.livejournal.com]

Are you looking for bangs or no?

I love the longer in front/angled up to the back look for fine straight hair - it swings, it looks cool, it shows off the shape of your head. What image are you going for? As the actors say, what's your motivation?

If you do a search there are many websites for hairstyle photos. Some of them are pretty terrifying but they're great for ideas. Also random places - I unexpectedly found the photo of what I wanted in a Nordstrom catalog. The hairdresser just funkified it up a little and I was very happy.

And please, I totally understand why you feel shallow or stupid for posting this, but to be grounded in your own life is one of the best things you can do to deal with "all that's happening in the world". I greatly appreciate it, as I'm trying to stay grounded myself. And I do it by caring about all these picayune things. Discuss!

[sun-set-bravely.livejournal.com]

Bangs? Image? Motivation? These are all very good questions that I haven't even considered. Image especially, as I don't think I've ever consciously considered the image that I want my looks to have. I'm sure I come across as having an image, probably an eccentric but boring one, but I've never thought of intentionally manipulating it. Hmmmm... well, I want to look cool, sophisticated, self-assured, effortlessly beautiful... Maybe I'll try entering that into Google and see what comes up. :)

Thank you for your reminder about remaining grounded. I'm trying my damnedest to do so!

Also -- your words have been bouncing around in my mind recently. The idea of projecting, especially. I don't know exactly what that means, but I think I understand some of it, and I'm sure I'm guilty of it. I learn so much from your posts, and I want to thank you for your thought-provoking words. Thank you!

[schpahky.livejournal.com]

Thank you, ma'am. I'm glad it's all landing somewhere.

Last spring I changed my glasses and my hair within a few months of each other and BAM! suddenly had a whole new image. It changed a lot of things in my life, which I never would have anticipated. Suddenly I felt as if the outer had caught up with the inner. One must take these things seriously.

Everyone projects. Everyone, even my therapist, which is why he's careful to say, "I'm probably projecting, but...." Kind of like when someone analyzes a dream of yours, and you think, "Well, no, but that does tell me a lot about you."

I love being aware of projection. Transference makes me feel squidgy and that's another story entirely, even though, again, everyone does it every day.

I think I want to have a makeup 'n' psychological analysis salon. Come get your nails done, and get your dreams done, too.

[sun-set-bravely.livejournal.com]

It's funny that you mention glasses. I've been thinking about getting new glasses as well! Mine suddenly seem so big and clunky. And you bring up a good point -- I imagine that all of this desire for a new look is a reflection of changes happening internally.

And I LOVE the idea of an m&p salon. Sign me up!

[eleanor.livejournal.com]

On September 11, a very big building fell on me. On September 12, I got my hair done. Honest.

I couldn't go home, was staying in Brooklyn, right near the woman who did my hair, and I felt miserable. It was the best thing I could have done. So go, do your hair, enjoy it, and don't feel guilty.

My hair is past my shoulders now, but I had a Louise Brooks style bob for years.

[sun-set-bravely.livejournal.com]

You know, I have never commented on your posts about September 11 and its lasting effects, but I think they are wonderful and meaningful. When I find a new LJ person whose posts intrigue me, I often check to see what they said on or around 9/11/01. It's very revealing to see how people dealt with it, if they said anything online at all. So when I found you through your comments in schpahky's journal and went to look at your past entries, I was astounded and deeply affected. I live in downtown Brooklyn and was at home that morning, across the water from everything, but much of what you said/say rings true with me and enriches my understanding of the situation.

And thank you for the Louise Brooks idea! I've found several great pictures of hers to take with me to the hairdresser.

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[eleanor.livejournal.com]

Aside from my initial two posts, I actual wrote more after the one-year anniversary.

Now here's another interesting thing that's somewhat related: After September 11, the rescue and construction workers worked around the clock. They were dirty and tired and stressed at the end of their shifts, probably depressed, too. Many of them came across the street to the nail salon in my building. I'd walk in for a manicure, and the pedicure chairs would be taken up by big men holding hard hats in their laps. Grooming is a great stress-buster.

And thank you -- that was a lovely compliment.

[sun-set-bravely.livejournal.com]

I love this story! Thank you for sharing it.